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Marriage and Finances

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Married couple can not emphasize enough the importance of financial freedom in a marriage. Gladly most marriages started as relationships therefore during the relationship phase you already knew what kind of a person your partner is. There is nothing that makes a marriage strong and easy going than being open when it comes to finances  if you are married to someone who still keeps their finances to themselves then you are probably heading for a crash. It is not okay to be married to someone who refuses to openly discuss their financial status.  Being open about your financial status to your partner does not make you weak,it helps the both of you plan and live better. Discuss your finances no matter how bad they might be. Two heads are better than one, a problem shared is half solved. Marriage is supposed to make finances better,if it's making it worse then the is something you are not doing right. If your financial problems are hard to solve by just the two of you then seek he...

Marriage and step children

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Someone once said we live in a generation of step parenting. It seems to be true as 80 percent of married couples live with their step children. However every family handles their home situations uniquely. We have spoken to two different families to get a feel of what it's like to be a step child and also to be a step parent. We have found that the most difficult thing about being a step parent is when the step children are teenagers and it gets better when they are young adults. Some step children don't get along with their step children because they adapt their biological parent's hate for their step parents. The root of a peaceful home depends on how civil the step parents and biological parents are with each other. For example, if you are a step mother you need to respect and humble your self to the biological mother in order to win the hearts of your step children. How you treat your step children's parents is definitely how the step children will treat you. Rememb...

Being married to younger men.

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Being married to younger men is a fun yet draining roller coaster on it's own. A couple of days ago we spoke to five different women from different cultures and different backgrounds with one thing in commmon,being married to younger men. There is so much we noticed about their energies though, they all had the same bubbly and very active personality as to compared to the personality of women in their age groups married to older men. We then concluded that when you are married to an older spouse,you automatically adapt to their age and act like you are also in that age group. The five women we had tea with were fun to be around,they threw around a lot of jokes and were so easy to relate to. They dressed in a way that we would never guess their age. They were dressed appropriately with a touch of trending fashion here and there. If you thought many older women married to younger men were threatened by younger women then think again. These women are the main reason why their younger ...

Marriage and infertility

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Many parents groom their kids into future wives and husbands. It is every parent's dream to see their child enter into a new life with their significant other.  A lot is celebrated on the day,not only is it the couple getting married's big day but the couple's parents celebrate the loudest. Most people still believe that any child who marries or gets married symbolises that they come from a good home with great morals. Much as people do not want to admit but being married somewhat earns you some sort of respect from the society. Someone who is married is treated with more respect than someone who is not married. That is honestly the sad battle we are yet to win.  Truth is marriage looks beautiful when you are on the other side of it, people have so much expectations from other people's marriages. Asanda did everything right in life. She is a Doctor married to her high school sweetheart who is also a Doctor,his name is Vusi. They own a beautiful mansion at one of the cla...